17 Ways to Say "I Love You" in Neurodivergent

By Save The Neurotypicals

    1. I saw this article/website and wanted to share with you.
    2. Here is a thing about your favorite thing.
    3. I would spend unstructured time with you.
    4. You can share my silence.
    5. I researched your problem; here are your options.
    6. I love your project so much, I thought of some ways to make it even better.
    7. Do you need a ride home from your mundane errand that should be no big deal but is actually a Big Deal?
    8. I see you’re freaking out. That’s cool. I will chill here in silence until you need me.
    9. [thumbs up emoji]
    10. I will make that phone call/book that appointment so you don’t have to.
    11. I knew you would forget, so I did [insert thing here]
    12. This is your reminder to do the self-care thing. Do the self-care thing.
      Do the self-care thing. I’m not getting off the phone until you confirm you have done the thing.
    13. We made plans, and I had a sh*tty day on that day. But, I didn’t cancel, because I knew I would enjoy seeing you more than I would enjoy staying home.
    14. You screwed up something people don’t usually screw up, and you’re probably embarrassed, so here is a story of my best screw-up.
    15. You once told me about a completely irrational thing you hate, and now I remember not to do it/to keep it away from you every time.
    16. I learned your allergies/sensitivities. Please confirm if these ideas I have for avoiding them are helpful.
    17. You mentioned one of your health conditions the other day. I have no background in it, but I read everything I could, and now I have follow-up questions.
A point to clarify:

Neurotypicals don’t “do this, too.” Not to this degree. Neurodivergents do these things repeatedly– and sometimes obsessively– and make massive time investments in them.

However, one common thread in a lot of these items is social anxiety, introversion, and means of expressing love that aren’t verbal, so those features could be common to a number of different groups, including neurotypicals.

Save The Neurotypicals is a Canadian autistic writer focusing on sass and neurodiversity. Follow her on Twitter @SNeurotypicals, or tip her on ko-fi.com.

She is also a contributing writer for The Aspergian, a website to showcase actually-autistic voices and autistic talent.

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